This week, my students had to give group presentations, and one awesome woman looked at me before her presentation and said, “I feel sick. This is awful.”
I said, “Really? But I’ve seen you present before and you’re great.”
She said, “I hate it. I can’t believe you do this every day.”
The comment took me totally by surprise: I can’t believe you do this every day.
Why was I so surprised? Because my thoughts are so totally different. I think:
- I can’t believe I get to do this every day.
- Do I deserve to be this happy and make money?
- I love looking out into my classrooms at so many incredible people.
- I have so many things to share, and am so honored these smart people listen to me.
Believe me, I didn’t always have such cheery thoughts about my career. I used to make a good salary working in San Francisco as a Media Planner for a corporate ad agency, working in the Embarcadero Center right on the Bay, lunching at top Zagat rated restaurants, and going to Cirque de Soleil and lake Tahoe on expense accounts. And, every morning, I would wake up and think these thoughts:
- I can’t believe I have to go to work today.
- Why am I so unhappy? I make good money!
- Thank goodness I have a few nice friends at work.
- I wonder what excuses my supervisors will make this week for being crackheads.
Ok, I didn’t really work for crackheads, but I worked for some serious junkshows.
And you know what? Let’s keep it real. If you knew me, you’d bust up laughing at advertising Georgi. My colleagues moved fast, they were nimble and flexible, they made quick decisions, they covered a huge breadth of topics, they kept up with trends and fashion, and they were fast talkers and agile negotiators.
If you ask my friends about me, I move slow. I think. And think. And think. I make research-based decisions on a narrow depth of topics. I hate fashion. I’m behind on trends. Sometimes, when my friends ask me what I’m going to do this weekend, I say, without irony:
“I’m going to sit in the backyard with my dog and stare at the trees.”
I was SO NOT a vibrational match in advertising!!!
- You know those topics you could talk about all day? Vibrational match.
- You know that thing that you would do, every day, for free? Vibrational match.
- You know those people you meet and immediately love? Vibrational match.
Vibrational matching is when your values line up with what you do and who you surround yourself with. Do you ever think about your values? It’s not the sexiest topic, I know.
Some of my core values are: education, expertise, fun, physical and emotional wellness, outdoor recreation and nature, encouragement, and positivity.
If, at age 22, I sat down and took some time to know my values and myself, I would have known not to take that advertising job. But, I wanted the money. I wanted to get out of debt.
I wanted to try to be a person that I was not.
We all try on different personas and careers. It’s all ok. It’s a part of life. It’s a wonderful, goofy, vibrational rollercoaster.
But, if you’re feeling unhappy, sit down and revisit your values. What do you love to do? What’s important to you? What do you compliment other people for? What makes you angry and frustrated (indication of an underlying value violation!)?
List your values. My advertising pals love trends and style and constant action and competition. Me, not so much. In fact, I just had to take a break from writing my blog to stare at my sleeping dog for a while.
Beautiful reader, I hope you wake up in the morning and look forward to most of your days. I hope you are doing something that you would do for free because it is interesting and important to you. I hope you are surrounded by people who inspire you. If not, check your frequencies.
You deserve an awesome job.
You deserve cool coworkers.
You deserve “I can’t believe I get to do this.”
You deserve the vibrational match.
Please don’t ever think that you can’t have it. Instead, find it. Align with it. Go for it.
Have the courage to create a custom-fit, crackhead-free life full of good vibrations.