Next month, I’m visiting my mom in Florida. I have some predictions for you!
- She will say she needs to get organized.
- She will say she needs to clean the garage.
- She will say she needs to cook new recipes.
Does she do any of the above? No. Have I tried every possible way to help her do the things above? Yes. Does everyone in her life try to help her do the things above? Yes. Does anything ever work? No.
My mother has been worrying over the same things for decades.
I think she should give up.
That’s right. Time to quit. Nike always says “Just Do It!” and yet I have another plan.
Just don’t do it.
It’s time to quit.
Yes. Seriously. You may be waiting for my disclaimer to come. It’s not coming. I seriously think she should give up. And I am giving up trying to help her with things she doesn’t want help with.
Our culture constantly urges us to work hard. To fight. To suffer for success. It is exhausting and unnecessary.
If you keep draining your finite energy saying you should do things you don’t do, please give yourself permission today to stop. Full stop.
Quit trying to do that thing.
I’m my mother’s daughter. Here are the things that I repeatedly worry over:
- I need to fix up my house.
- I need to be a better guitar player.
- I need to be more productive in the summer when I’m not teaching.
Guess what? I give up. I’m not going to do any of that.
Beautiful, aspiring, worried reader: You don’t have to do that thing. I know everyone is telling you to do it. I know they’re pushing you. I know you’re insecure and think you should be different than you are.
You know what? That’s ok. You don’t ever have to do anything you’re not ready or willing to do. I give you permission to quit.
Watch what happens when you free your energy from worry. Watch what happens when you stop seeking people’s approval for your choices. Watch what happens when you choose what feels good TO YOU.
Maybe your spirit will rise. Maybe it will rise above worry. Maybe other things will flow that feel mmmmm so right.
Loving you out there. You are free! It’s your life. Just don’t do it. XO