Worried About a Healthy Adult? They Don’t Need That


“My wife is not doing so well,” my coworker said, “And she may need a kidney. If I’m not a match, we are going to need someone else to donate a kidney. But yeah, she is not doing so well.”

I stood there and nodded.

My old habit is to nervously try to make things better. Talk too much. Give advice. Feel anxious and hopeless. Absorb pain. Worry.

More and more, I am trying to practice new habits. That day, I stood, arms at my side, palms open, shoulders relaxed. Calmly nodded. Looked into his pretty brown eyes. Quietly listening.

He paused and breathed deeply. I stayed silent and breathed with him.

After a few moments, he said: “It is what it is.”

I said, “Yeah. If I can help, please let me know.”

He repeated, “Yeah, not much to do really, it just is what it is.”

I said, “You are a good husband. You are doing your best.”

He said, “I love her.”

I said, “Yeah. You have been really good to her.”

We smiled and said goodbye, see you later, and I left. Things will work out. He is a grown adult who will figure it out.

Worries make me feel heavy, anxious, and sad.

ballons-937930_960_720Imagine you are on a hot air balloon. There are big worry sandbags weighing you down. We often don’t even realize that they are on our balloon taking up space!!! Meditation and mindfulness help you see your thinking. When you identify worries, you can question if they are useful or not. You can question if they are real or fiction. You can choose to think differently.

You can throw sandbags off your balloon and feel lighter.

Worries are heavy. Practice lightening up. Little by little, practice wishing people love and freedom from suffering. Practice trusting that people will work things out. Practice faith that people’s problems and issues are their spiritual curriculum, and they will benefit from figuring them out… themselves. 

Healthy adults take care of themselves. Always. You might not like the way they’re doing it, but it’s not your life. It’s their life and their journey. They are learning. You aren’t needed.

How does that news feel to you? I hope it feels free.

Healthy adults don’t need you.

Neil Gaiman once wrote: “I like stories where women save themselves.”

Let people save themselves. Overcoming challenges makes people strong. If they call on you for help, be there. Otherwise, spend your time wishing people well. Encourage them. Love them. Then, get out of their business.

Oh hey… by the way, is your life perfect? If you’re human, it’s not. Great news! When you worry less, you now have more time to focus on yourself.

You’re not avoiding that, are you? 😉

Beautiful, gorgeous, wanting-to-help reader: It is wonderful when someone cares for you. You know what feels the best? Empowerment. Physical and emotional adulthood. Learning and knowing how to care for yourself. Asking for help from who you want to help you, when you need it.

Hey boo, I’ve got issues. I often feel scared and insecure. I struggle with people and body image and I wage an ongoing battle with “not being good enough.” I’ve written about my struggles in my blog. Overcoming them makes me stronger. More successful. More compassionate. Less anxious. Brave.

Please, please, please: Don’t worry about me. I’m an adult. I seek help. Lean on friends. Educate myself. Get stronger. Lighten up.

Want to join me in my new practices?: Worry less. Trust more. Love more. Accept more.

Save yourself.




7 Ways to Have More Fun at Work Without Quitting Your Job


Are you feeling stuck at work? Uninspired? Bored? Tired of the same routine or worse, fed up with your coworkers? That feels terrible. You know what is even worse? There are people doing the same or similar jobs as you, and they are having more fun.

That’s right: People are having more fun than you at work!

And now, the good news! You can have more fun at work. Yes, you can. No, you don’t have to quit or leave or change anything. Really.

It’s time for you to slowly start to take your power back and take responsibility for the way your day plays out. Have a little more fun tomorrow. I’ve got eight ideas to get you started.


cat-3204836__340#1: Learn a few puns

Have you heard of the “bad pun dog”? Google that dog immediately! Learn a few puns. Then, drop one into your next work day. Here are a few of my favorites:

“I’m scared of cats. I don’t know why. They just freak meowt. Seriously, I’m not kitten.”

“I used to work at an orange juice factory. I got canned. I couldn’t concentrate.”

“It’s hard to explain puns to kleptomaniacs. They always take things literally.”

#2: Develop a catch phrase

Do you have to respond to routine requests? Convey the same kind of news over and over? Next time, use a catch phrase. Develop a signature style. Or steal one. Like Kramer’s exit line. When wrapping up a phone call with a coworker, say, “Bede bede bede, that’s all, Joan.” Or instead of saying, “Do you want to take a coffee break?” start saying, “Do you want to go walk my cat? Seriously. I’m not kitten.”

#3: Develop a signature style

Start wearing something new to work. Start doing something different with your hair. Start wearing all blue over and over. Every day, all blue. Or wear a bow tie. Try a new shade of eye shadow. Push the limit a little. See if you can earn a new nickname, blue boo!

background-21751__340#4: Do something different to your workspace

Spice up that desk. Put a bowl of weird candy on it. One that doesn’t taste very good. Make everyone try your weird candy. Get little boxes of nerds. If people eat them, say, “Nerds for the nerd!” and laugh hysterically. Get a box of chocolates. Whenever anyone eats one, say, “Isn’t life just like a box of chocolates?” Hide the map to the chocolates. No one will know what they are going to get.

#5: Play a nice practical joke on someone

Slip a picture from Pinterest under someone’s door. Hand write a little funny note and leave it on their desk. Write a little poem and slip it under someone’s door: “Roses are red, violets are blue, I drank your coffee, ate your sandwich too!” Awww! How fun! Simple. Silly. Sinister.

#6: Pick a line from a song and work it into your day

Try to say song lyrics, naturally, in the course of your day. In the staff meeting, say, “I don’t think we should ever stop believing. We should hold onto that feeling.” Pick increasingly weird song lyrics. Then, start making up songs about your day. Simply change the lyrics of famous songs!

“People get ready, there’s a staff meeting coming, make all your copies, and prepare to be bored. People get coffee, get your smart phones all charged up, we’re eating free bagels, thank the lord.”

#7: Ask yourself, “How could this be more fun?”

This is one of my favorite questions of all time. Anytime, in any day, stop and ask yourself, “How could this be more fun?” Whatever you do, especially things you do over and over, ask yourself, “How can I make this more fun?”

Beautiful, gorgeous, funny reader: Life can be a little more fun. You can add a little more fun to your day tomorrow. Try it. Of course, we are all always going to have bad days. But, like autocorrect always says, you don’t have to put up with that shirt.

Loving you out there! Have more fun at work.



5 Favorite Free Meditations


Trying to drink less wine? Trying to relax a little more before bed? Trying to chill out before a big day at work?

Try meditating.

Meditation is not weird. It’s not religious. It’s not Buddhism. It’s not difficult.

Meditation is the silent, nonjudgmental awareness of your own thoughts.

Meditation will change your life.

Every day, I meditate for 15-20 minutes. I started with 10 minutes. You could start with 5 minutes, like a quiet, technology free drive to the grocery store. Here are five of my favorite free meditations. They are from the Insight Timer, the best free app ever. I also recommend the free 10 minute, 10 day sequence on Headspace. I also recommend leaving your phone at home and silently walking around your neighborhood.

Happy Meditating! Let me know if you like one of these five beauties:


Insight Timer App

#1: The Timer on Insight Timer

This is an awesome meditation tool! You can personalize and change the time and settings. I love the raindrops. I love the Basu. I enjoy the little bells. Ahhhhhhh.


Insight Timer App

#2: Stillness by Riley Yee

I think this is some kind of wooden flute. Whatever. Judge me. Look at Riley’s picture! He’s a tough guy who is cool with the flute. That makes me happy. This one really chills me out.


Insight Timer App

#3: Heart Chakra Tibetan Singing Bowls

Have you heard the singing bowls? No? You’re going to love me now. They are magical sounds that feel so good. There are several of these meditations, I like the heart opening one, because I often get scared and try to close my heart. This reminds me to breathe deeply and soften up a little more.


Insight Timer App

#4: Theta Mare 20 – Binaural Music

Theta brainwave state is where you can create neural pathways with more ease. Brain wave states are fascinating. If you slow down your brain waves, it’s easier to rewire your brain. OMG. Freaking cool. Theta waves are in all kinds of music. Start Googling it! You’re going to be so intrigued. Then, listen to this meditation. It’s electronic and trancey and supercool.


Insight Timer App

#5: Stop Worry & Stress Guided Meditation

This one is the only guided meditation I use regularly. I speak and hear a lot of words in my job. However, if I’m stressed, this Moriam lady really helps me. She is direct and no nonsense and that puts me at ease. My favorite line is: “It’s likely you knew what to do all along.” This one is as good as a glass of wine for chilling you out. I’m not kidding. Try it.

Beautiful, relaxed, chilled-out reader: Have fun with your meditation practice. Try new meditations. Try walking meditations. Try driving meditations. Try shower meditations. Try meditating in the bathtub!

Meditating is one of my most important daily practices. I hope you enjoy some of these meditations. I hope you continue to do what feels good to you.

After all, you’ve never needed me. You’ve known what to do all along.

Loving you out there! Take a meditation break today!

If You’ve Got A Problem, YO! You’ll Solve It.


  • My Q: What is your career goal (if known)?
  • My student’s A: “Does anyone ever really know???”

I LOL’ed sitting alone on my couch holding their stack of papers:

Does anyone ever really know?

Yes, wise pupil. Some people know. You don’t know right this minute. That’s ok.

Can you relate? I can.

My name is Georgi, and I’m a recovering control freak. I often think that not knowing is a problem. I want to know everything now and I don’t. I want to fix everything immediately and I can’t. I want to trust that my life will continue to surprise and delight me and yet, I have doubts. That’s ok.

Let’s face it. It has to be ok.

Life presents problems.

But here’s another beautiful thing life will offer: Solutions.

Vanilla Ice rapped, “If you got a problem, Yo! I’ll solve it.”


Inside-Outer. It’s a problem.

Do you have a problem? Please call Vanilla Ice.

HA HA. Totally kidding. Don’t call that guy! Guess what, yo? We don’t need him. If you’ve got a problem, Yo! It’s ok. You’ll solve it.

Solutions are coming.


A-HA! Gotcha! Watch out for it: Anxiety and fear can skyrocket when you journey into the unknown! It feels terrible, right?

We can work on that. Lookout, Vanilla Ice! Here’s a new rap:

Yo! You’ll solve this. It will be ok. It’s ok to feel scared and anxious. It’s probably because you care about this situation. You care. You are full of care and desire. That is important. And there is a solution to your problem. There could be many solutions. If the exact solution isn’t clear right now, it’s on the way.

Solutions are on the way. Help is on the way. More information is on the way. More pieces to the solution are coming. Relief is coming.

Get quiet. Give it a rest. Give it some thought. Give it some time. Give it more space.

Gorgeous, human reader. Messy, beautiful soul: If you’ve got a problem, yo, you’ll solve it. You will solve it. Maybe the solution isn’t clear right this second, but get quiet and trust your inner guidance.

  • Q: Who really knows?
  • A: You. You always really know.

Loving you out there.

Solutions are on the way.



Are You Scared To Write a Blog?


Welcome to blog post is number 111. In numerology, 111 marks new beginnings. Alignment. Fresh starts. But this is how I felt before I posted blog #1: SO SCARED.

Me: writing writing writing and thinking thinking thinking how people would call me ridiculous. Stupid. Simple. She’s cheapening her degrees by writing stupid shit online.

OMG SO SCARED. Courage is when you’re scared and you still do it. Yes, I still get scared. And yet here I am: still doing it.

Over a hundred posts. Thousands of views. Countless private messages and emails saying THANK YOU. Georgi, I APPRECIATE you. Your words HELPED ME. You said something I was thinking. It’s so weird, YOU CONNECTED to my problem. After a difficulty, THANK YOU for a new way of thinking.

You know who I would have reached if I stayed scared? NO ONE.

Hey, you. Yeah, cute lil’ you. What you have to say is important. It is. Now. As is.

A few months ago, I was talking to a woman whose husband has bipolar disorder. She has written BEAUTY that could HELP other people. She told me she wanted to publish a blog. And was scared.

I get that. I was scared too. Sometimes I am still scared. It’s just…

colored-pencil-3118270_960_720Do you know how many people would BENEFIT if you shared your struggles? Do you know how many people are ON YOUR SIDE? Do you know how many people WANT TO READ what you have to say???

I do! I’ve found out. It’s awesome. Even if it was ONE PERSON, it would be worth it.

GORGEOUS!!! Write a blog. Speak your opinion. Offer your thoughts. They don’t have to be perfect. They don’t have to be ready. They don’t have to be a Pulitzer. NO ONE HAS TO READ IT.

You know what the best part has been about my blog? I go back and read what I’ve read. Sometimes, when I’m blue, I read my ideas and say holy shit I wrote that. I get emails and text messages and calls and affirmations and comments in person and I have found out that there are a tribe of people who love me and READ MY BLOG. THIS FREE BLOG. THIS NO ONE HAS TO READ THIS BLOG.

sign-2639397_960_720I get to read my  own LOVING WORDS. I get to see my LIFE ON A PAGE. It helps me so much.

So many self-help books and articles will suggest that you journal and blog. And yet, people are scared. And yet, want to know why it feels so good?

Healing and connecting and mental health improves when you REDUCE CONSUMING what other people put out and START CREATING. Yeah, YOU. CREATE. Create your own blog. Fine tune your own ideas and jokes. Publish that shit. IT’S FREE. Or, create something else. Music. Art. Dance. A healthy body. A trained dog. A signature handshake. Whatevs. That’s cool too.

Reader! Gorgeous reader!!! Sending you so many kisses and hugs.

111!!! A new beginning for me and you. Know who loves you so much?

It’s me. XOX

Know who wants to read your blog?

Me neither. Maybe you should write one. Or 111.



It’s Uncomfortable Outside the Comfort Zone


The gentleman in the front row raised his hand and said, “I’m freaking out.”

A very intelligent grown man freaking out.

Why? Because my colleagues and I had just asked him, and a class full of graduate students, to give a short elevator pitch about who they were and what they were all about.

We asked adults to introduce themselves, and they freaked out.

This is the life of a teacher. Nudge a student outside their zone of comfort and voila… discomfort.

Have you felt uncomfortable lately?

When you leave your comfort zone, you are going to feel uncomfortable.

Trying to run your first 5k? Hello, discomfort.

Going back to school? Bonjour, discomfort.

Dating someone new? Hola, discomfort. I knew you were going to show up.

But wait wait wait, gorgeous!!! Here’s the great thing about emotions: You can feel them. You can allow them. You can handle them. You can work through them.

mug-1863438_960_720Do you know what we said to that gentleman who was freaking out?

That’s ok.

You’re freaking out? That’s ok.

You are about to do something that’s challenging. It’s ok.

You can be uncomfortable and still do that thing. That’s called courage.

Courageous people are uncomfortable and they do it anyway.

You can freak out and still do it.

You can feel a little nervous and scared and worried and still do it.

Life outside the comfort zone is uncomfortable. You risk failure and rejection.

IMG_5518Know what else is outside the comfort zone? Improvement. Pride. Accomplishment. Excitement. Expansion. Passion. Dreams. Goals. Leadership. Strength. Incredible health. Astounding wealth. Profound influence. Hot sex. Big love.

Cutest, smartest, sweetest, most adorable reader: Be comfortable for as long as you want. You can always, always, always choose comfort. I choose comfort ALL THE TIME!!! I love it. I love being comfortable. You can always return to comfort. You can always retreat to the zone.

But then, if you ever want to go outside the comfort zone, prepare to feel like this:


A little nervous.

A teeny bit (or bigtime) scared of failure and rejection.

If you feel that way, lovingly remind yourself that it’s because you have left the zone.  Why? Because you are courageous, you are brave, and you are making your dreams come true. You are going after big things. Now and always, remind yourself that it’s your choice.

It’s always your choice. Have fun with it.

Loving you out there. Ready to get uncomfortable?


Did You Remember To Lock Your Car? What Else Are You Doing Without Thinking?


What do you do on a daily basis that is repetitive, easy, and almost unconscious?

Oh, boy! A LOT.

Ever walk into your house and get halfway through making dinner and wonder if you locked your car? Me too.

OF COURSE YOU LOCKED YOUR CAR! And you opened your door with a key. And you took all the ingredients for dinner out of the frig.

When you do things over and over, your brain and your body create muscle memories. And then, with less and less brain power and effort, you repeat those patterns for maximum efficiency.

You’re amazing!!!

You wake up. You drink coffee. You check your email. You drive to work. You make small talk. You do a work routine. You eat lunch. You work out. You get ready for bed.

My friend is learning how to play the fiddle now. It’s like TWIN….KLE…..TWIN…..KLE……LIT…..TLE….STAAAAAAAAARR. But next year, she’s going to be faster and will use less and less effort.

How do I know? Because she’s got a daily practice routine. She is forming a new habit. And habits are transformational!!! MUSCLE MEMORY ENGAGED. DOING IT AGAIN. EASIER AND EASIER. THIS IS WHAT WE DO. WE WILL EASILY DO IT AGAIN.

cake-pops-693645_960_720Ah yes, all those habits serve you. They work. Yes. All of them. Even that chocolate habit. On some level, ALL of your habits are serving a purpose.

OOooooh boy. Now for the good stuff…

Want to break a habit??? No problem! Go backwards.

Make your bad habit conscious again: I’m doing that thing again. Oh! Yeah! I see that pattern. It’s all ok (compassion). That pattern is serving a purpose.

What else would serve the same purpose that would feel better?

If you haven’t read Charles Duhigg’s book The Power of Habit, put it on your holiday list. His book is a delight. I devoured it like chocolate because it was so satisfying and interesting. I assign it to my students. It is an awesome subject.

Gorgeous, intelligent, mindful reader: Habits are AMAZING. They take load off our brains so we work faster. They make things easier. They become muscle memories. Your good habits are sustaining you all day long every day.

And… if you ever want to change a habit, get curious and conscious about the one you want to replace. Why are you doing that thing? What is its purpose? Can you do something else that would feel better AND serve the same purpose?

Yeah, you can. And yes, you will. You’ve got this. You just need practice. Rosen up your bow. Twinkle, twinkle, little star. Soon, you’ll be enchanting us all.

Loving you out there. Create some habits you love.

But first… Did you lock your car? OF COURSE YOU DID, YOU HABITUAL LITTLE MINX! NICE JOB. Mmmmwah!